Why It's Important to Surround Yourself with the Right People

2 years ago   •   4 min read

By Zero Machina

The people you surround yourself with have a huge impact on your life. They can influence your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors in both positive and negative ways. Choose wisely.

Investing your time with the wrong individuals is a waste of time. The wrong people will pull you down and make it more difficult for you to reach your full potential. On the other hand, relationships with successful people can help you grow and reach your goals.

In this article, we'll discuss why it's important to surround yourself with the right people, and how to choose relationships that empower you.

The Impact of the People Around You

I'm sure you've heard the quote: “You’re the average of the five people spend the most time with."

It's true. And it applies to everyone, not just the closest five people in your life.

If we're constantly surrounded by negativity, it can bring us down. On the other hand, if we surround ourselves with positive and supportive people, it can make a world of difference.

Consider the last time you had a fantastic discussion with someone. It probably didn't involve celebrity gossip or chit-chat about the person who just got canned from their job. It was probably something deeper—perhaps it made you think, laugh, or feel connected in some way.

Now, compare that to a conversation you had where you felt drained afterward. Chances are, it was more superficial, focusing on things that didn't really matter in the grand scheme of things.

So the next time you're feeling down, take a look at the people in your life and see if there might be a connection. Then, make a conscious effort to surround yourself with uplifting people who will help you reach your goals.

Stay Away from Negative People

Negative people are like a virus.

They bring down morale, spread pessimism, and are generally unpleasant to be around.

For example, let's say you surround yourself with people who're always critical and judgmental. Over time, you may start to believe that you're not good enough, or that you're not capable of reaching your goals. This can lead to feelings of discouragement and despair, preventing you from making progress.

On the other hand, surrounding yourself with people who are supportive and positive will help empower you. You'll be more likely to believe in yourself and your ability to reach your goals. These people will encourage and motivate you, which can lead to massive action and greater success.

Beware of the Social Media Illusion

It's so easy to get caught up in social media and compare ourselves to other successful people. But at the end of the day, it's really important to focus on our real-life relationships.

There's nothing wrong with posting pictures of your vacation or sharing a funny story with your friends. And when used consciously, social media is a great tool to build healthy relationships. However, don't forget to focus on the people who are actually in your life. Be aware of the dangers of spending too much time living in a virtual world, and the superficial relationships that potentially come from it.

The people who surround you in real life are the ones who matter the most. They're the ones who'll be there for you when you need them. They're the ones who will help you through tough times.

So, be aware of these real-life relationships and how they're impacting you.

The Law of 33%: How to Choose the Right People to Surround Yourself With

By now, you realize how important it is to surround yourself with people who'll support your success and overall well-being.

So how do we choose the right people?

Tai Lopez popularized a concept called the law of 33%, which states that you should spend a third of your time mentoring people lower than you, a third of your time with peers, and a third of your time with mentors above you.

Mentoring someone lower than you allows you to share your knowledge and expertise with someone who can benefit from it.  This will also improve your ability to teach, communicate, and learn.

Spending time with peers helps you to stay current and relevant. It's important to have friends who are going through similar experiences so you can relate to one another and support each other. Plus, life shouldn't always be about hustling. Hang out with people who share common interests with you and enjoy their company.

Finally, spend time with successful people who'll serve as mentors to you. Ideally, they've accomplished what you're aiming to achieve. These are the people who can teach you new things and help you to reach your full potential.

Start Small in Your Own Life

The simplest way to begin surrounding yourself with the right people is to start small.

Consider the people in your existing networks—a family member, colleague, or an inspiring person in your community. Try to build a stronger relationship with them. Invite them to informal gatherings, coffee or dinner.

After this, you can meet new people.  Join local events in your city or appropriate networking events for the type of people you want to be around. Find the environments that attract business leaders who have a thriving business, smart people who are inspiring, and other like-minded individuals.

Surround yourself with the right combination of mentors, peers, and mentees, then watch how much easier it is to accomplish your goals.


The key takeaway is that surrounding ourselves with the right people has a big impact on our overall success and well-being. We should make an effort to spend time with mentors, peers, and mentees who will help us achieve our goals. Additionally, social media can be a great way to connect with others, but we should be aware of the dangers of spending too much time living in a virtual world. Those who surround us in our own lives are the ones who matter the most.

Want to learn more about how important it is to invest your time in meaningful relationships at work? Check out our article: The Importance of Relationships in the Workplace.

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